7 steps to Say No to a Marriage Proposal

Lets say I am not writing this in order to be against to the thoughts of our loving Mom's neither I am going to taunt on the thing that with so much of love and care they search a Guy for their daughter. 
"As if "Kahi koi reh na jaye", but what about the consent of the girl herself.




Do we really think about how the girl wants to live her life? , Love affection care everything just converge to a single point when your daughter cross the age of 20, as if this is the time when you have to boost yourself in order to do work ,
Work about how to send her away?


I am not even the one to taunt about how they have to handle the things, parents are grown up enough to analyse this but Lets say "This use to be the first time when you don't know about how your little daughter thinks, its when the girl whom you groomed up to the age of 20+ starts hiding from you and think about different ways to end the relationship which has not even yet started.
And this happen just because she is unable to talk or you as a parents are unable to understand about how he or she feels like.

And Luckily or unluckily if you are there in an relationship then this is the time for you to pack your seat belt and go on the roller coaster ride to think about how are you going to make it through this.
You have to decide that whether you are going to speak for the thing which you are there on or easily accept the fate.

And its just Because you have promised someone somewhere that you can't live without him her. 
Lets say its time for Action.

Its not a JOKE, but "Its the time to work, work on whats lacking in between the unsaid talks"

And for all the daughters who keep mumb at this time lets say its time for them to speak , speak not because they are doing something against and affecting the so called respect for their parents. But its because "Its your life & you must value your dreams"

7 points to say no to a marriage.


1- Your Dream:- I don't find anything else as suitable as this one to cancel a marriage proposal, You never know what may happen when you get married. If you are unable to make your own parents understand about your dream of doing whatever you like then how can you say that you can make your in  laws understand about what you wish to do in your life.
Think and act. Because your marriage can be the point of giving up the very dream which you wished to stick with for long.

2- Your Age:- I find it rather amusing about why people start looking at a girl of age 23 like a ripped fruit. I mean she has her own life and choices, its better leave her alone to decide. "and yeah while talking this I am not talking about the girls who are fond of playing house and has just one dream to marry someone." 
You are just 20-23, I mean there are a lot of things which you have to do you can at least delay the proposal by putting the point that you have some plan for your courier.
which can only be possible if your are strong on the first point.

Lets say if you don't have any of the above statement in your command and you are desperate enough to end the relationship just because you want to marry the certain someone of your life. There can be a lot of interesting ways of ending or declining a proposal.

3- Age difference:- Well modernization like things are affecting every structure of life and the worst part to deal with is age difference, I personally feel irritated all the time when I visit an #SBI bank as compared to #private, I find that old fellow typing slowly in his own speed , its like the time has stopped and when you ask them to rush they just shout their way out. Same is going to happen when you will be linked with someone of more then compatible age with you. You will never be able to work in line. 
And yeah don't just give me a damn about compromising because people compromise for the things which they come through after opting something. They just don't start a journey by compromising.
Its time when your parents often get interested in a guy of age 30 or close to that, He earns well he is an NRI whatever. The things which fascinate them is the money which he has and they are ready to do the match of 30 with a 20/22 year girl.
But are you ready to compensate with this, I guess no?
So this can be the first point to say NO.

4- Luck never supports you suppose your stars where not good at that time and it turned like you are unable to avoid the situation, the thing that come at that point is create a scene of emotional torture there in your family, tears and drama are the best part of the point to at least cancel one of the marriage proposal.

5- Indians always dream like the height of the girl needs to be less then the height of the boy it may sound funny but yeah this can be your trump card to cancel the proposal and lets say your luck can favor you this time.

6- It may sound quiet funny but you can't always find someway out of the situations like this sometimes you can actually fall in the conspiracy of your parents and you have to face the things like "Milna-Wilana" when the parents of the guy come to check whether the consignment (you) has some flaw in it or not.
Try as the last way out to screw things up by committing some small mistakes. If God will be on your side then for sure the guys family will pick it as a wrong point to decline you. 
Provided you must look average because if you are beautiful then I am sure this is going to overcome all of your flaw.

7- If you know life you can't handle the things on your own then better leave it on your boyfriend he will try to find some way out to tackle the situation. #Positively.

And yeah WE have one #default step for your help 
Think about the one whom you love that will always pump adrenaline in your system and you will be ready to fight to anyone just to make it happen. MARRYING HIM

I can say that you need not to turn to the point after 3 because the first 2 points are always sufficient enough to mould a war in whatever way you life. It like a MOOL MANTRA to tackle things.


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  1. such a wonderful post. It helped me a lot as I am undergoing as a issue right now. My family is forcing to get married but I am not at all comfortable for the same. This article is surely going to help me a lot.

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    1. Hey thanks shreya, I am really glad that i am able to help you out like this, Keep me posted if you want to read something on the other topic.

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  3. I love a guy,we want to get married but parent don't want me to get married with him cuz he is not that rich n all statues thing.They have lots of proposal for me but i said i dnt want to get married bcz i want to do a job(am giving exams for govt job) n am just 23.but they said ur father is going to retire this month,we spent lots of money behind ur sister's graduation.Basically they want me to get married with their guy..i donot know what i am gonna do.suggest me something plz

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  4. I love a guy,we want to get married but parent don't want me to get married with him cuz he is not that rich n all statues thing.They have lots of proposal for me but i said i dnt want to get married bcz i want to do a job(am giving exams for govt job) n am just 23.but they said ur father is going to retire this month,we spent lots of money behind ur sister's graduation.Basically they want me to get married with their guy..i donot know what i am gonna do.suggest me something plz

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    1. Hey , hi Anamika , i will come straight to the point, is he good enough to take risk for it. I mean are you sure that he will stick with you to the end.

      If you are....

      Then just sit tight for it and make it happen, there is no point of your father's retirement in that. I mean you are not going to be a part of dowry sh*t which is still persistent in India.

      And moreover I am happy in marrying my girl anywhere even in church which requires no money in your pocket. So i dont think there is a point of money in that.

      And before all this thing just make sure that you are convinced with the amount of money which he is earning coz in later part , practically you will have no one to blame except you. If your relationship falls.

      Take care and drop a message if you need to talk more about this.

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